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Soon to be a bachelor again.....

Navy Chief

Navy Chief

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Never thought I'd be going through another divorce, but such is life I guess.

This time is different, however. I'd heard of so-called "friendly divorces", but always thought it was pure B.S.

Well, that is exactly my situation. Unlike previous experiences, this time I am not being raked over the coals, either financially or emotionally.

But just wanted to share with you folks, as you are all my friends.

I am hoping to get back into simming again, once this is blown over on the 18th of Sept.

Meanwhile, I try to keep current on things.....

Navy Chief
 
Aw man..Pete...I'm sorry to hear that....

I know how it feels..My marriage is very shakey too these days..

I feel for ya...

at least its not ugly...
 
They say that the number one cause of divorce/marriage problems is finances. And with the current financial crisis, lots and lots and lots of marriages are "under fire". Luckily, my wife and I are used to being poor, so we are doing just fine with $4.18 in the bank and 11 days to go before we get more money. Deb and I just got done playing some Wii bowling, she is taking a shower right now, and once she gets dressed and primped (which will take about an hour), I am going to help her walk down to the pond...she hasn,'t been down to it since before her brain surgery last August. This walk will be her longest walk without a walker to date...so it will be a mile stone of sorts.

Navy Chief, Harleyman,

For what it is worth, I have a few prayers I can spare for you both.

OBIO
 
OBIO said:
They say that the number one cause of divorce/marriage problems is finances. And with the current financial crisis, lots and lots and lots of marriages are "under fire". Luckily, my wife and I are used to being poor, so we are doing just fine with $4.18 in the bank and 11 days to go before we get more money. Deb and I just got done playing some Wii bowling, she is taking a shower right now, and once she gets dressed and primped (which will take about an hour), I am going to help her walk down to the pond...she hasn,'t been down to it since before her brain surgery last August. This walk will be her longest walk without a walker to date...so it will be a mile stone of sorts.

Navy Chief, Harleyman,

For what it is worth, I have a few prayers I can spare for you both.

OBIO
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Thanks Obio. My problems seem miniscule to what you are dealing with. Pete
 
guys, bachelorhood ain't so bad.

now when you have gas, you don't have to hold it in anymore.
you can eat pizza for breakfast and no one will get on your case about it.
you can use the bathroom anytime you want, no waiting.
and none of that nonsense in your medicine cabnet either. just a razor, some deodorant, and what ever meds you might have.
have all the beer you like, no one to give you "the look"
no more putting up with inlaws you can't stand. no more lending them money or tools that you'll never see again.

just offering a bright side. hope it helps.
 
Prepare

Navy Chief:
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After your divorce take some time for yourself and maybe put a little distance between you and your ex-wife. I found usually after the divorce no matter how nice it appears to be issues will arise. Once your ex-wife regroups, rethinks and reality sets in on what just happened it may present a problem. It’s best to be prepared for the unexpected.

Becky
 
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Navy Chief:
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After your divorce take some time for yourself and maybe put a little distance between you and your ex-wife. I found usually after the divorce no matter how nice it appears to be issues will arise. Once your ex-wife regroups, rethinks and reality sets in on what just happened it may present a problem. It’s best to be prepared for the unexpected.

Becky
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Thanks for the advice, Becky. I plan on doing some camping (of course, taking along my Rottweiler, "Chief"!).

As for other things like having some beer, and cold pizza? Yep, planning on that too!

NC
 
Gosh I think I have been married my whole life, can't remember when I was a bachelor. Sorry to hear about the divorce even if it is a friendly one it has to be hard.
 
I'm sorry to hear it NC. I went through one of those "friendly" divorces back about 12 years ago. She wanted out and I kept my peace so long as she left my Navy retirement check and my truck alone and didn't get crazy on child support. It worked out pretty good in the end. I still hear about her via the kids once in a while, but I sure don't miss her.

Hang in there shipmate, we're rooting for ya.
 
Been there, done that. I feel for you Chief. I hope I never go through it again. Of course, I never had the "nice divorce". Still gotta go through the feelings though. I'll keep you in prayer too.
The good thing is that you KNOW you'll get to the other side eventually.
Good luck.
 
NC, sorry to hear something like this concerning you. If it cost as much to marry as to divorce, it might not be so many...lol.I'm not in your boat. Linda and I have a firm marriage...hope all goes well for ya...how do they say it "It ain't over till the fat lady sings"
 
Hi Chief; This is my second time around. I Was a single parent for about 10 yrs (6 to 16, daughter). After that I had about 5 years by myself, which I really enjoyed. I had 2 dogs and 2 cats, and all was great. For some reason a beautiful woman 17 yrs younger than me, took a liking to me. (I think it was the dogs). I am married to her and very happy. So, if it's what you want, there are plenty of ladies out there. Being alone is not that bad either, thank God for dogs. I sure miss mine, they're both gone now. Hang in there ........Rick
 
Bad news matey, unfortuatly my Girlfriend left me last night too, so I'm stuck now looking for somewere to live and spent last night being sick,... wonderful these women folk 'hey :monkies:
 
Been there once and it could happen again. Not a great thought but s.hit happens. There's always someone in worse shape than going thru a divorce..... don't ever forget that. It feels like the worst thing in the world that can happen... but it ain't.

And there's always someone you'll meet later on and hit it off with.
There is better out there.... somewhere.

Chief, you are lucky it's "friendly".

Lewis you are very lucky you were not married. ;)
 
Welcome to the CLUB, Navy Chief,

You will see the BIG difference, and you will have a lot of fun being alone again! But bear in mind, you are not really alone....

Eli
 
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