Going Away.....

Matt Wynn

Matt Wynn

Charter Member
as of late.... my luck is not in the best condition, what with my PC packing up at every possible moment.... then this evening things reached a climax.... was told "why haven't you got a job? you're lazy and you do nothing!" by my parents, to which i responded "if you recall i asked you a year ago for assistance and you did nothing, so i started a company... done a darned sight more than you"... (only it was not this clean from myself, typical squaddie backlash).... as such these added pressures have gotten the better of me... so..... it's me versus my family.... the black sheep versus the flock.....



unfortunately and as a result...... it is with due regret that i must inform you all of the imediate ceasing of my work, all projects are on hold till when/if i return.... my apologies to everybody i was doing things for but as i say i'm losing more work than making a profit these days, thanks to the stupid computer coupled to my parents short sightedness in not assisting me get a job i'm not in a position to continue work until i find something to do, and therefore get a new PC... so with a heavy heart and much regret i'm shutting my paint hangar doors till it's resolved...

take care all.....

Mike-Whisky Out......
 
I wish you Good Luck with finding employment/job and your company but you must realize that your parents are NOT responsible for your long-term economic future. They have to kick you out of the nest at some point if you are a drain on their financial resources. At some point, we all have to take responsibility for out lives. Don't make it YOU vs. THEM -- you will regret it.

Again, wishing you the best of Luck.
 
glh said:
I wish you Good Luck with finding employment/job and your company but you must realize that your parents are NOT responsible for your long-term economic future. They have to kick you out of the nest at some point if you are a drain on their financial resources. At some point, we all have to take responsibility for out lives. Don't make it YOU vs. THEM -- you will regret it.

Again, wishing you the best of Luck.
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.... for OUR lives ....
 
Sorry to hear that you are having difficulties Matt. Think positive, and the best of luck (and prayers) to you. Hope to see you back soon.

John
 
This bites!

And the current does suck....But when you do come back, it will be when things are better for you....
Your parking space in the hangar is reserved...
 
Thanks panther, i'll stick around but as i say, paint hangar doors have been shut and padlocked for the time being.... will have to get the Avia 51 paintkit as it currently stands uploaded though... :salute:
 
Take whatever time is needed to make things right at home. Soon enough you will realize it was completely worth it and everything else will sit quietly waiting for you when you're ready.
 
Hang in there, mate. Things have an uncanny way of resolving themselves and I'm sure, with your talents, you'll come out on top. We'll be right here when you return.

BB686:USA-flag:
 
Times are really tough for young people in Europe! Just don't put it down to yourself - you need a bit of luck to get a break on the job market more than ever.

Best wishes,
Sascha
 
I am not one that believes 100% in the bootstrap tales of Count Münchhausen but some of it does apply.in Europe or anywhere else for that matter.
I must say I was a bit put off by the way you phrased the interaction with your parents, but then I do not know the whole story so I'll leave it alone.

As much as I love your contributions to our simulated world, it might be a good idea to invest your time, energy and intelligence on
1. Finding out what jobs there are out there.
2. What requirements you do need to meet to land one of those jobs
3. Work as hard as you do on those paint jobs in getting these requirements filled.

That job may not be your dream job. Heck it may even suck. Not everyone gets to work in their dream job.
Most have to settle for something they can live with. I certainly don't love what I do anymore after 25 years of it. But it allows me the financial means to share in a PA32 and fly it every weekend.
The trade off is worth it to me.

I have a feeling that if your parents see that you are trying something concrete they will help as much as they can. The worst thing to do at any stage however is to burn bridges with your family.
After all, friends come and go, but family is there to stay.

Best of luck

Stefan
 
I have a vocation by trade in one science. Went through 7 years of university to earn it as well. Then I went out to the wide world of wonder to ply my learned science only to be dashed to the side by those already there.
So I had to do the next best thing... diversify, learn a new trade. Thus the trade I ended up in was not the one I would have chosen but it held me up and treated me well for 20 years. Now after all these years Im back in what I went to school all those years ago for. And the thing that shocks me most, I'm 20years better then I was before. :0)
Not only am I able to do what I love the most, but I'm in hot demand! (I will elaborate more in the future.)


Anyways the reason for all of this pre amble is that life will throw you a curve ball/s, and if you don't catch them and roll with them you will get nailed between the eyes and never get up. So life has its hiccups as we travel down our paths, we may have to make adjustments along the way, change our point of view maybe. But in the end if we roll with them we will come out stronger,wiser, and more on the ball.

So as a young guy you have more options then you realize. Your parents. though not perfect are your parents and you need to respect them for that at least. And remember they are dealing with their own bumps in their path of life as well.

Hang in there and see the positives, your youth, you have more time than a lot of us do. Use it wisely.


Tom Wood
Lead Designer
 
cheers guys, i don't mind talking about my family issues, most of it is due to me and my decisions as a 16 year old, i more or less dropped out of the last 5 months of school, still got some qualifications... French, German, Graphics and Geography (Failed the critical 2, Maths and English, but redid them as GNVQ's later on but thats another story), after then i decided i wanted to work, so i 'took my countrys shilling' and enlisted, aged 16.5 i started, couldn't deploy till 18 so i spent my time doing the menial jobs, from beginning of basic through till my exit i didn't speak to my parents, some 6-6.5 years.... things fell through with my Fiancée at the time (She was the reason i started talking to my family again) and i wound up back with my parents, still somewhat strained talking to each other each day...

so far for my company to try and prove i have a concrete plan of action and 'actions on and actions off' i have shown my parents the plans, the projected finances, including initial expenditure and the projects etc...

...but hey as i say, que sera sera... what happens must logically happen for a reason....

as for now.... well as of this moment i'm brushing up in yet another language, under my belt i have qualifications as i said in French and German, but also conversational Russian, Ukranian and Pashtun.... language i'm nose deep in at this moment.... Spanish :icon_lol:, working on my 'penta-lingual before 30' plan :icon_lol:
 
well when you get back you can join my fs9 freeware team if you want, always looking for some help around here.:0)

Tom Wood
Lead Designer.
 
The other thing Matt hasn't mentioned is that the area he lives in is one of the most depressed in the UK; it used to be the manufacturing heartland of the country, a very large part of our motor manufacturing was done close by - but for a wide variety of reasons (and I won't get into the politics & the whys and wherefores), we no longer have a motor industry & most of the other industry in the area died as a result.

So while I thought things were tough, as a 50 year old trying to find work in London (and they were, and Sunny is right, you do the crap job if that is all there is :( ), for an ex-squaddie with a dodgy knee in the Midlands it is even worse.

Hang on in there mate. As I said to you earlier, just bite your lip for the moment, you don't need this to get any worse - and who knows, a little restraint might actually help it get a little better. Oh, and pride can be a dangerous thing!! ;-)
 
It took me 14 years, on and off, to earn a Bachelor's Degree in my specialty which I then applied through 23 years of service at the Federal government level. Unlike many of my professional peers I had no previous experience in the job when I finished university, having been a military member and then a blue-collar worker (which I'm proud of) during that time. What I did when I was an Airman and then a working stiff had nothing to do whatsoever with what I chose as a major. After beginning my career I found out through experience it wasn't what it was cracked up to be, lots of disappointment and broken aspirations, so as has been said you most of the time wind up doing something you can tolerate and use it as a base for the things that matter -metaphysical affairs, family, friends, helping others and whatever gives you enjoyment. If you can find a job that is also a hobby you will be among the most blessed of men. I have known and respected the British military. Don't ever forget you have that under your belt as well. Try not to be too hard on your folks - I live next door to my 88-yr-old mother-in-law, and it can be a difficult burden at times; I have to remember her age and her life's experiences, they're different from mine. Same thing with your mom and dad. Obviously you have imagination and energy - those will carry you a long way. Stick with it, kid. :salute:
 
I won't go into the politics either, though I think by now it should be abundantly clear that "trickle down" is simply hogwash.
Old Henry Ford seemed to have realized that if his employees could not afford to purchase the product they are building he would never make it. He paid them well, above the norm as I recall reading, and they paid him back in loyalty in both labor and product purchase.

If the economical prospects in Midland are not good and not looking to get any better soon you might need to make the tough choice to pull up stakes and move where the jobs are.
Especially if you have a knack for languages the world truly is your oyster. Within Europe there are places that work quite well and where skilled professionals are in demand.
It may be tough to leave but sometimes that is the only viable choice. The jobs lost may never come back to Midland in that form....so as the worker bees we simply have to go where the honey is.

Cheers
Stefan
 
yeah, i've got several applications in at the moment, mostly overseas travel related... one can hope, but aside for that at the moment i'm keeping low profile and focusing on my company, just to prove i am committed and am behind it fully, and to show i wouldn't be doint it if i didn't expect at least some kind of return....

languages are my skill, Born in Greece to English parents, used Greek till i was 7 mostly, moved to the UK (Fathers Job moved there) went to school over here and the rest as they say is history... how i failed English i'll never know... maths yeah.... i'm a duffer when it comes to maths... why i leave it to accountants :icon_lol:

this retirement and closing my paint hangar doors is killing me already... and you can all stop waving the bolt cutters and thermic lances at me... it's not opening :icon_lol:
 
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