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QuickSand, I do understand, Like many I have had to experence this..
I do Pray for you, Please do Understand, that your act of compassion will not go unnoticed, I believe by our Lord..
Take what comfort as you can from those that love you, don't be concerned to let Those near you Know how you feel..
Thank You from someone who rides a Harley, for doing what you could..
And may God have mercy on this poor souls' family..
God Bless and keep you...
 
I am still so angry.. but I know now I did all I could..... I want to grab the guy driving the van by the collars.... and then I lose trck.. He stepped out of the van, and threw his hands in the air, as if to say, "What did I do?", or "I didn't do anything.".... If I had not been so busy trying to keep the cyclist alive, I could have killed that no good &^%$! I must move past this, though.. I know...
 
I first saw this at work (I occasionally sneak a peak), but I don't log in and reply to stuff there. Needless to say when I first read it I was pretty glad I work in a remote corner...

Quicksand, you absolutely did the best that you could do. It takes a special person to be able to step up in that type of situation and do what needs to be done. I am terribly sorry that despite your efforts it did not go well. You should take comfort in the knowledge that you were there for him at a crucial time in his life.

I wish there was something that I could say or do to ease your mind, but I know that sometimes you can't fix things on your own. I offer my prayers to you and the family involved.

You need not apologize about posting this. As sad as he outcome is I think that today in a way God worked through you in helping that man. Your gesture in helping him deserves more praise than I can offer in this venue.

Peace be with you.
 
I see now why this really hit you hard Quicksand. That was a horrible way for that poor guy to go. Awesome of you to be there for him. Danged awesome.


May his soul rest in peace and may his family and friends and his wife endure through this horrible tragedy.



Bill
 
Thanks for your post, N2056.... I am at a loss for words.. As lame as it may seem, I would have gladly traded my life for his, after watching the horrible way this thing happened.. I have lived and loved, but this man could not have been over twenty..... So sad.... His words, and his voice, will be with me until my own passing.. I have a son (Little QS here) about the same age... I hope they throw the book at the moron driving the van.. Common sense will tell you that you can't run seventy mph in fifty mph traffic. I hope he pays...
 
Your frustration is one I know well in terms of the ability (or lack thereof) some people have when it comes to driving. I used to work in a job where I drove a field service truck all over southern California. One of the bigger reasons I left that job was wanting to not spend that much time driving around with people that got their license out of a box of Cracker Jack!

It sounds like that van driving loser is done based on what you said about the witnesses. I also was liking the part about how he was forced to a stop by others.

We can only hope.
 
Thanks for your insight, Bill. I feel so sad that we could not help him, though.. It really leaves me feeling empty, or unfulfilled, like I failed...............
 
Quicksand said:
Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...
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Good grief, man! That's very intense!

Ken
 
I gotta get some sleep so I can get my appointed rounds done tomorrow.. I thank all of you for your thoughts, support, and prayers...
 
I've been in similar situations in the past,Quicksand, and can only try to offer you the comfort that ,in time, you will be able to fully deal with this tragedy. You are probably still in shock.

My thoughts are with you.
 
Quicksand, to my thinking heros are common folk who rise to a challenge. I think you can count yourself as among the group. You jumped in to help which shows your character. There is no script for real life, we can plan and influence just so far.

It looks like you're getting a handle on this which is really good, but give yourself time. I don't see too many of these calls but I remember all of them, and summer is coming. They never get easy.
 
Perhaps ... (sorry if this was covered, just going by memory from last night's reading ... )

You could get the fella's name and address and home phone from the EMS or someone, and relay the message he gave you to his wife. That might provide some closure.

:wavey:
 
Quicksand said:
Thanks for your insight, Bill. I feel so sad that we could not help him, though.. It really leaves me feeling empty, or unfulfilled, like I failed...............
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I'm sorry you had to experience this and even sorrier that young man had to die in such a needless way.

I would like to deeply thank you as a rider myself. A lot of people would have driven on to get home and left it for others to "deal with". The stabbing victem in the news recently comes to mind.

I hope I'm never in a serious bike accident but if it came to that I hope someone like you is around. I would want to say my last words and die with human contact and compasion rather than alone on the cold pavement.

I'm not great with words and I wish I could say it better but,

Thank you


Rob
 
Quicksand,
Hard to find appropriate words to respond to in your thoughtful and moving above statements. It's touched us all here.
I've never gone through what you have. Most of us haven't. However,...if there's some consolation in this sad tragedy,...you were there to comfort him during his final breaths of life. God bless you,....and like others here,...I'll be keeping you and the bikers wife in my thoughts and prayers.
-Brad
p.s., I think Snuffy makes a good point in bringing some closure for the grief you're experiencing. If the authorities would give you the home phone number so you could personally talk to his wife. He'd like that and so would she.
 
WOW...What a thing to go thru....

Agreed with all who said that more positive will come from this to you later in life....

Trajic as it was, you were there, and chosed for that task I truely believe..Everything happens for a reason... Most times we never discover that reason..but place our faith in it..You were chosen ...

I too ride..If I were to die on a highway, I surely would perfer it to be in the arms of a compasionate person, such as yourself...

God bless you for what you now must endure, and that you will learn to overcome, and find peace and solice in your experience...
 
Just wanted to pop in for a minute between "honey-do's" to say thanks to all for your support. I have contacted the EMS guys, and sadly, this young man died. They are supposed to get back to me with some contact info for the rider's wife. I'm just puttin' one boot in front of the other today, but I learned a valuable lesson on Tuesday. The term, and song, "Live like you were dying", holds new meaning for me... Never again will I ever view, no matter how stressed I am trying to keep my daily schedule, coming up on an accident and having to wait until the road reopens, as an inconvenience. That young man and his tragic death will ride with me wherever I go... Praying for his family...
 
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