That should be "What to do . . ." You can see how this situation is driving me to distraction.
I'm not one to normally post things like this on this site, but things are building toward a point of conflict. What a mess.
My 89-year-old mother-in-law has congestive heart failure, cardiomegaly, pulmonary edema, a pneumothorax, and just finished having drains installed in her posterior chest wall to drain fluid that periodically accumulates in her pleural spaces. This is a by product of the CHF. She can hardly move with a walker on level floors in her home. Tomorrow she comes home from her latest stay in the hospital, to install the thoracic drains. The home has a set of front steps six steps high. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law, who live with my mother-in-law, are bringing her home from the hospital tomorrow. The last time this happened - about two weeks ago - he got her out of the wheelchair at the base of the steps and made her walk up the steps with him. Last night the cardiologist was at the hospital when I was, and I asked her point-blank if my mother-in-law should be walking up those steps. The cardiologist answered specifically and without equivocation she should not be doing that, or doing any other climbing in her condition. My in-laws have already told us (wife and I) they will be bringing her home, which is fine. I plan on letting him know tonight that while I have some errands to run tomorrow, I will put them off in order to help him carry her up the steps in her wheelchair and get her into the house where she can be wheeled to her bed. I can bet anyone on this forum I'll get an argument from him, or at least a statement to the effect she'll do all right and the little climb won't hurt her. I've told my wife I can't be a party to this if it happens, it's knowingly disobeying a dr's orders and in her mother's advanced state of illness could well provide the extra little surge to push her off that "cliff." The problem is you can't convince him that although you're younger than him, you may know a little more than he does, in particular due to your past experiences plus your current training in a medical field.
You've got to bear in mind this is the same guy who, with his wife, turned on space heaters in an unoccupied rental unit so the person coming to the unit (time of arrival unknown, could have been hours) would feel "comfy" when they came in the door. I don't know if this reasoning or behavior is caused by incompetence or maliciousness.:isadizzy:
I'm not one to normally post things like this on this site, but things are building toward a point of conflict. What a mess.
My 89-year-old mother-in-law has congestive heart failure, cardiomegaly, pulmonary edema, a pneumothorax, and just finished having drains installed in her posterior chest wall to drain fluid that periodically accumulates in her pleural spaces. This is a by product of the CHF. She can hardly move with a walker on level floors in her home. Tomorrow she comes home from her latest stay in the hospital, to install the thoracic drains. The home has a set of front steps six steps high. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law, who live with my mother-in-law, are bringing her home from the hospital tomorrow. The last time this happened - about two weeks ago - he got her out of the wheelchair at the base of the steps and made her walk up the steps with him. Last night the cardiologist was at the hospital when I was, and I asked her point-blank if my mother-in-law should be walking up those steps. The cardiologist answered specifically and without equivocation she should not be doing that, or doing any other climbing in her condition. My in-laws have already told us (wife and I) they will be bringing her home, which is fine. I plan on letting him know tonight that while I have some errands to run tomorrow, I will put them off in order to help him carry her up the steps in her wheelchair and get her into the house where she can be wheeled to her bed. I can bet anyone on this forum I'll get an argument from him, or at least a statement to the effect she'll do all right and the little climb won't hurt her. I've told my wife I can't be a party to this if it happens, it's knowingly disobeying a dr's orders and in her mother's advanced state of illness could well provide the extra little surge to push her off that "cliff." The problem is you can't convince him that although you're younger than him, you may know a little more than he does, in particular due to your past experiences plus your current training in a medical field.
You've got to bear in mind this is the same guy who, with his wife, turned on space heaters in an unoccupied rental unit so the person coming to the unit (time of arrival unknown, could have been hours) would feel "comfy" when they came in the door. I don't know if this reasoning or behavior is caused by incompetence or maliciousness.:isadizzy:
