Reading down your post, I thought: Ha! Here's someone who could cast some light on my question, then!
Until I got to the last line, that is.
But I"ll pitch it anyway: everybody knows the effects of gravity, but are we any closer to knowing What it is?
Uh-oh! Well, the general theory since Einstein was that matter warps space-time around it creating a slope in space-time that other matter just rolls down, kind of like a weight on a rubber sheet (a much beloved analogy of our scientists) - hence the seeming attraction.
So gravity is not a force, but rather a geometry of space-time - we are standing on a slope of space-time, in a manner of speaking, and feel the gradient.
However, recently scientists have been talking about gravity sort of being a byproduct of time and vice versa, that time and gravity are sort of mixed up, maybe even two sides of the same coin! They believe that research into time will be the next big thing in physics.
Can't pretend I understand it, myself!