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Life....

Quicksand

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Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...
 
Oh man that is sad....

Do what he said man, tell his wife he loved her!
The wish of a dying man....

There are a few people like you that makes the difference in that loved ones life.
Go visit her and tell her...
Maybe he did not have a chance to tell her that he loved her...
Fulfill the man's last wish!
 
Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...
Three times I have tried to reply, it's hard to see thru my tears. Let God be your strength thru this time of sorrow, hang in there.
 
QS, that's a terrible thing to have happen. Sounds like the circumstances of this man's passing were sudden or violent, such as a heart attack or vehicle accident. It's terrifying for the person who's at death's door and I can only imagine what it must have been like for you. You should definitely do what the man asked and tell his wife he loved her. I'm sure that will bring her a good deal of comfort to ease her grief. Then take care of yourself and talk it over with your family or pastor. Hang in there. :)
 
Life is so precious...

Only when it is about to leave one do we see how priceless it is.

May you endure through this and may his wife also.
 
I can't say that I've ever had a life extinguish on me, but I've pulled my fair share of bodies, both living and dead from automobiles. Its never pretty.

For all the movies and other stuff that's out there where we are "subject" and "witness" to these life to death scenes, we will never be conditioned for the event when it happens in real life.

Quicksand, you have to make your peace with it and let it go.

Petitions ascending for you and them.
 
Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...

I have experienced this also and you never forget it. Now is the time to turn to family and friends and God and share how you feel. It may be hard to realize it now but you can use this experience improve your life and your relationship with others. I will be praying for you.
 
Quicksand,

What were the circumstances of the man dying? From an accident? I have personally never experienced such a situation. I have worked as a nurses aide on a Geriatrics floor of a hospital, so have seen death, but not what you went through with that unfortunate man.

NC
 
Hi Quicksand.

The few times I've witnessed death up close and personal, I was haunted by the imagery and remembered the sensations for weeks. I could close my eyes and be there again and again. I dreamt of it. It's hard.

But it fades. It looses it's edge and it's hold on us. Time does heal. Comfort yourself with the knowledge you comforted another in his time of need.

Dick
 
Comfort yourself with the knowledge you comforted another in his time of need.


i think you make an important point. as unpleasant as it may have been, to be the last voice someone hears in this world is no small thing. there are no coincidences, and you can't put a price on what you tried to do for him.
be honored
 
Quicksand, you know intellectually that death is a part of life and that it happens randomly all over the planet, has always been and will always be that way. Do not be sad - you rendered the same human compassion for him that we would all want in the same circumstances.

Do not be sad, as it was time for him to go off and maybe do other things. You performed a commendable human service - congratulations for stepping up and doing so. Many others would have fled. . .
 
Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...

I know it's traumatic, but it sounds like you're a pretty solid guy who was capable of doing the right thing and had the fortitude to do it when the pressure was on. As such, this will eventually turn into a positive experience that will enrichen you and make you wiser.


Toastmaker's right, intellectually you know that death is just as human as birth even when it's untimely.

Here's to hoping you feel better about the whole thing!! You should.:ernae:
 
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Have been there as well, friend, twice in fact. A high honor, imo, to impart a man's final words to his companion. 'Tis part of the circle, Quicksand. You stepped up to the plate when it counted.
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Hoping to grab some folks by the shirt collar tonight.. Wish I could.. A man died in my arms this afternoon...He told me to tell his wife that he loved her.. I may never get over this.. He died in MY arms..So scared, and so serious.. I tried to deny, and then to reassure... No good.. He still died.. and so did a piece of me....God please help me...


May God's strenght be upon you Quicksand (as you have asked). Be there for his family like the others have said. May the man who past away in your arms now be in the good Lords arms.

Jim
 
Don't let it get the best of you, Quicksand. I'm sure you did everything you could.
Get some distraction, talk about it with someone.
But just don't let it eat you.
 
I can only imagine the emotional impact that had to have on you. I hope and pray that you find the strength to come through this experience better for it and his, family pulls through.

May he RIP.
 
First, let me say thanks for all the kind words and prayers..You guys and gals are my family. Second, let me apologize for posting what I did in this forum, as I broke my own rule about sticking to aviation topics... I was deeply depressed last night, and I am still an emotional wreck today..I debated whether to reply to the PMs I got asking what happened, and in the end decided to post the situational details publicly, as it is only right that you know the whole story.. Yesterday afternoon, as I headed south toward FL, I got behind a motorcycle. It was a nice bike to say the least, with its owners care apparent in the way it sparkled in the sunlight. I was impressed that the rider was smooth in his actions, and obviously a very safe and experienced biker.. A van passed me and swerved abruptly for the off ramp of the exit we were passing at the time, hit the cycle in the rear, knocking the rider off. The bike and rider went under the van and were tumbled before coming out from the back of the van, whose driver had yet to use his brakes... I locked up my brakes and slid to a stop only fifteen feet from the crumpled rider, who lay in a heap on the road.. The van, meanwhile, had attempted to run, but was forced to the median by some cars who had witnessed the crash. I ran over to the man, as did two other men, and we tried to what we could for him. His entire body was crushed... He was bleeding out quickly because his legs were almost torn off of his body. I used my belt, and one of the other guy's belts to apply tourniquets to his legs to slow the bleeding, but it was no use. When I ran to him, he was still conscious, and he said to me in a cracked whisper, "I'm bad, ain't I?" I tried to console him by saying he would be alright, but his skin started to turn an ashen gray, and I knew he was going into shock. He was still trying to speak, and I knelt down and took his head in my hands to try to comfort him, and listen to his words. He rasped out,"Tell my wife I love her." Those, as far as I know, were his last words. The paramedics came and began working on him at this point, and he quit breathing, and went into cardiac arrest. They were still doing CPR on him as they put him into the medevac chopper.. I have not been able to find out if he died for sure, but I don't think there is any way he could have lived.. Every inch of his body was either skinned, cut, or broken. After it was all over, I got physically sick and vomited until only green bile was left. Even after the rescue guys cleaned me up some after the chopper left, I still had his blood all over me until I was able to take a shower later..... I will never forget his eyes as he looked at me.. It was as if he knew... I told the helicopter crew what he had said, and told the Trooper who was investigating the cause exactly what I saw.. I was heartened to see many other motorists who witnessed this tragedy lining up to give a statement to this Trooper. I keep playing out the wreck and especially its aftermath over and over in my head. I hope that I did all I could for this man, and I am so angry that this had to happen to him.. No fault of his own... I thank you all for your prayers and support, and I ask you to continue to pray for this man and his family...
 
That poor guy; that just goes to show that you never know which day is your last.
 
Wow, I just caught up with this and I'm absolutely floored. I ride too, as does my wife. There's so many things I'd like to say, but I just can't find the words to express them properly. I'm angry at the van's driver. I mourn the loss of any human life, and especially a fellow rider. I can't begin to guess what his family and friends are going through right now. "Senseless" and "needless" are words that keep echoing in my head.

I hope and pray for peace for the friends and family left behind.
 
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