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Prayers for my Father-in-Law

Just got in this thread. Sorry to hear of all this Tim. My thoughts and prayers too to Jack and the whole family.
 
I just got in also. I cant believe I missed this.

Most sorry OBIO about your Father in law. Man, that is a hard hit. I will send prayers for him.



May cancer be wiped out soon.....





Bill
 
Well...what a nightmare the last couple of days have been. Jack was not able to return to the rehab unit at the hospital due to the after effects of the most recent stroke....his cognition, memory and such is way messed up. And in that state, the rehab folks would not be able to work with him. So, we have had to get him into a nursing home.

OBIO
 
Sorry to hear that Tim.

I hope things improve for him and the rest of your family if they can.
 
And the nightmare continues...after busting their butts making arrangements for my FIL to be admitted to the nursing home....Deb and her sister Tina were informed today that Jack will not even be released from the hospital until Wednesday of next week. Doctor wants him observed for a few more days. Which now throws the nursing home arrangements up in the air and now they may have to find another nursing home for him to go to if the original one will not hold the room for him until Wednesday.

Those two gals were dead on their feet this evening....Deb came home, did her Facebook games quickly and went right to bed. She will sleep like a log well into mid-morning tomorrow.

Tim
 
Tim, we in the forum, especially those of us who have been through it too, and Someone bigger than us, is there with you, though you can;t see us, we are there still. Take care man.

Tony
 
Today...after a lengthy discussion with the three girls...meaning my wife, Deb, and her two sisters, Dee and Tina....two being licensed nurses with lengthy careers and one being an almost nurse....Jack's doc..with consent of all three of his daughters....have made the move for Jack to be a hospice patient. There is nothing medically that can be done for Jack. The bone cancer is advancing and can not be cured, only slowed down with chemo. Further chemo treatments would simply weaken Jack even more than he already is. Add in three strokes in the last couple weeks. And the fact that a blood screening done yesterday shows that Jack's red blood cell count is very very low....quite possibly due to the cancer spreading to his bone marrow. The end result of all this is that Jack is going to die. Nothing short of a Divine Miracle is going to change that. No pills, no surgery, no medical procedure is going to fix the many things that are wrong with Jack. He is going down hill even with all the medical treatments he is getting.

Basically what this means is this: no more "life saving" procedures or treatments. From here on out, Jack will be kept comfortable, free of pain, and allowed to die. His body is basically saying that it is time to go, and it is going to be allowed to do that.

I'll be back to finish...hard to type right now.

Tina, who is Jack's biological daughter, is taking this step very hard. She "knows" that this is the right step to be taking...but imagine being in her shoes...being the one whose signature is required to stop all medical treatments and to let her dad die. Poor girl!

I ask you, my forum family, to pray for Deb, Dee and Tina...and especially so for Tina. They need all the strength and comfort they can get right now. And continue to pray for Jack, that his passing be as pain free as possible.

Tim

I was up to visit him today....Jack looked very frail, very weak, very tired....and he had no clue who I was. His cousin was in the room, these two grew up together and have been family for 71 years...and Jack had no idea who she was. It was very hard seeing Jack like that.
 
I thing we're all geting handed some bad cards now...

I wish things were better for you OBIO.
 
I know how that feels when the reality of "it's time" comes. I've been through it several times. Once with my Dad and twice with my wife's parents. You really have to try and focus on the fact that they won't be suffering anymore. That peace is on the way and that God is there with both you and them.
Will keep praying for Jack, you and especially your family for this to be as quick and peaceful as possible. Rest in His arms.
 
I am heartbroken to hear of the problems your family is facing..
I shall keep you and your family in my Prayers..

May our Lord give all involved the strength and mercy needed during these trying days..
God Bless you all..
 
OBIO,.....my cousin helped lessen the pain after the loss of our dad. She quietly stated it was 'his time to go.' We were thankful he lived a long and purposeful life and could share our love with one another.
 
so sorry to hear this Tim. My prayers go out to you and your family. For what little it's worth, my family and I have been through the hospice experience and it helped to make a terrible time more endurable. I pray it eases things for your family also
 
TomSteber said:
I know how that feels when the reality of "it's time" comes. I've been through it several times. Once with my Dad and twice with my wife's parents. You really have to try and focus on the fact that they won't be suffering anymore. That peace is on the way and that God is there with both you and them.
Will keep praying for Jack, you and especially your family for this to be as quick and peaceful as possible. Rest in His arms.
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I'll agree with Tom. Amen.

Obio.
Know what you and especially Tina are going through.
Been almost a decade ago now since I lost my mother to cancer.
Dad couldn't do the paperwork either, so I stepped in.
It's hard to accept but often it's a blessing.
"No more tears, no more suffering".
 
Jack is now home at my Sis-In-Law, Tina's house. Not that he is better, not that he will get better. But he will be taken care of better, be more comfortable being at home. The nursing home staff were far from good...too many horror stories from just a few days in that place. And Medicare will only pay for 20 days of nursing home care...after that the family would have to pay $140 a day...and Jack still would not be tended to well at all.

Hospice workers will visit Monday thru Friday for 2 to 3 hours and handle all his needs and supplies. Between Tina (almost a nurse), Deb (nurse for 20 years before her brain surgery), Dee (nurse for 20 years)..Jack's three girls will be able to take far better care of him than the nurses at the nursing home. I am just a 3 minute drive from Tina's house if they need any help from me. Helen, Jack's ex-wife/the girls' mom, is just a few minutes away from Tina's house and will help out as well.

After the medical transfer ambulance got Jack home and situated in his brand new power adjusted hospital bed, supplied by the hospice care service, Boo...Tina's 200 pound Rotty and Jack's good buddy...ran into the room to see Jack...and Jack smiled for the first time in a month. It will be much better for him to be home for as long as he has left.

Tim
 
OBIO, I must say I'm sorry. Sorry for not responding when I saw you first posted this. All I can muster is, I've been there with both grand parents on my moms side and both my mom and dad. It really took a lot out of me for any strengths I had. The situation is saddening for anyone to witness. Especially someone close. The flight does get better eventually. For all of us.
 
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